Dowry in Islam and questions about painful intercourse
In today’s article, Salma responds to questions about dowry in Islam and to a newlywed bride about painful sexual intercourse.
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Ask M: Your questions about online courtship/dating and preparing for the wedding night
Ask M answers your questions about online courtship and wedding night anxieties.
NYTimes: Over time, he looks more attractive
There are hundreds of romance novels in a category that some have named “Plain Jane and Hot Stud,” a theme that was equally popular when Jane Austen wrote “Pride and Prejudice.” Tall and good-looking, endowed with a “noble mien,” Mr. Darcy initially denigrates Elizabeth Bennet’s appearance: “She is tolerable, but…
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Swipe right for a SECOND wife
The New York Times’ Women in the World reports that there’s a new Tinder-style app to help polygamous Muslim men looking for a second wife. The app, My Diaspora, has become popular in the UK, where it is estimated there have been about 200,000 polygamous marriages. Men can talk to up…
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Living with a Bipolar spouse
Mental illness is a dirty secret in the Muslim community. It’s seen as a curse, as an embarrassment, as something to be kept hidden. In many countries it’s not spoken about, and certainly not medically treated. It’s something you get over, because you really don’t have any choice. It goes…
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Muslim, Bipolar, and still unmarried
My girlfriends and I talk constantly about how difficult it is for us to find suitable husbands nowadays. “We’re amazing,” we reassure ourselves, half-jokingly, half-sincerely. “Anyone would be lucky to nab us!” Maybe we are all amazing, but there is something a little extra that I bring to the table–I…
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NYTimes: How to make online dating work
We turn to screens for nearly every decision. Where to eat. Where to vacation. Where to eat on vacation. Where to get treatment for the food poisoning you got at that restaurant where you ate on vacation. Where to write a negative review calling out the restaurant that gave you…
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A Big Bang Theory
Close your eyes and imagine for a moment what your life would look like if you knew you’d never find romantic love. What would you do differently? What would fulfill you? How would you feel about where you are now? Thought Catalog posited a similar conceit in a recent blog…
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Girl Bachelor
“I never shall be an old maid, because I have elected to be a Girl Bachelor. And as to regretting this choice, you know the saying of the philosopher, ‘whether you marry or not, you will regret it.’” – Neith Boyce My friend Adam is a genius. We’re very different,…
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Part 2: The misinterpretation of “idribu” in 4:34 of the Qur’an
We are told that the word “beat” in this verse (4:34) is a transitive verb. That means it can only take a direct object. As this verb is transitive it can only mean “beat.” When it is in its intransitive form, it means “go away from them,” making “them” an…
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